When I was doing this kind of stuff, (and I absolutely, positively, don't do it any more
), I found it relatively natural, it just seemed to flow in the moment. I don't need to mention swingers' clubs, because anyone who is in one of those places has *already* been talked into group sex, they went inside with that expectation. But I found that in a fairly normal party setting, fueled by a surprisingly small amount of alcohol and combined with a well-placed, tasteful, and well-timed suggestion, you'd often get good results. I really don't recommend anyone do this kind of stuff, though. Sex addiction in all its forms is a cruel and brambled rabbit hole, and real happiness can be found more in faith, love, and charity than anything I've experienced in my 58 years walking this earth.