I wrote a little about this in the best friends thread, but we got a doozy brewing too.
My best friend of 30 years was arrested last month. Immediately bailed out. Was re-arrested last week and has been in jail since. Yesterday, the bond was revoked on the first arrest because he violated the bail conditions (doesnt really matter because he is already in jail for the 2nd arrest).
Anyway, he's an absolute conman and predator. At this point, we know he was living at least a triple life. His marriage and life with 5 kids was an absolute shell. He has completely duped scores of people, for many many years.
I can get past losing the best friend part. It sucks, but whatever. We are also super super close with the wife and kids (our kids consider them cousins). The "worst" part, and where it belongs in this thread, is watching his family try to come to grips that their husband and father doesnt even exist, and never has. It's absolutely heartbreaking. I would think dealing with a death is actually easier, because that is at least an "absolute". Fuching nuts to witness.