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stephenPE · Apr 21, 2022

I guess titles in here are not up for debate so here goes. We all have friends. I have 3 or 4 close ones. One almost died for a few years but he is doing great now. 74 yrs old. My oldest friend (about 70) tried to kill himself a few days ago with Oxy and alcohol. He was killing himself with booze for years but at a much more controlled manner. Ive never known a suicide victim before or one that failed. I call him my rich republican friend at times in here. I immediately went to visit him at the hospital (2 hours away) and spent half a day with him. He has to agree to a three day inhouse therapy thing. He just called me so I feel he is doing much better. Lots more back story but anyone dealt with it before? He has anything he wants but good health now days.

soflagator · Apr 21, 2022

Not personally, no. Best wishes in your attempts to help.

Also, this thread title sucks.

I Have No Friends :( · Apr 21, 2022

Sorry to hear about your friend, Corch. Bad health is a pretty big reason people in your age group look to end it all. All you can really do is continue to be a friend. If you want to go a step beyond, consider seeing a family counselor yourself (maybe even the same ones from his hospital or someone networked with them) to get tools on how to best help. Wish the best for you and your friend.

soflagator · Apr 21, 2022

Yeah, Coach, I also wouldn’t take advice from a guy who has no friends. Forgot to mention that.

gingerlover · Apr 21, 2022

Sorry to hear coach. I would definitely talk with someone to get some tools so that your conversations go the right way. I had a few that went from sympathy to anger and back. Personally I have my own thoughts on this. I think your friend is really low and needs some help/support. If he truly wanted to die he would have succeeded, but just may be at that point where he pushes things to far and is just indifferent, those are the more accidental ones. The friend I lost was similar. Would go months/years without a single sign and the one night after a few to many the emotions would come out. I was to young to do what he probably really needed and we were stupid kids. To this day without going into my own long story I believe his death was an accident and could have been prevented.

Remind him that there is no shame in getting help and talking to people. Force him if needed. Always willing to talk more privately as well if you need/prefer it.

MJMGator · Apr 21, 2022

I’d buy him a nice bottle of bourbon to cheer him up.

grengadgy · Apr 21, 2022

I Have No Friends :( · Apr 21, 2022

soflagator said:
Yeah, Coach, I also wouldn’t take advice from a guy who has no friends. Forgot to mention that.

Gatordiddy · Apr 21, 2022

MJMGator said:
I’d buy him a nice bottle of bourbon to cheer him up.

soflagator · Apr 21, 2022

grengadgy said:

Gator By Marriage · Apr 22, 2022

soflagator said:
Also, this thread title sucks.

Yeah, I couldn't tell if it was pro the TV show or not. Personally I thought it was a dumb show and not very funny, but Courtney Cox and Jennifer Anniston did look good.

@stephenPE I hope things work out for your friend and he looks at his failed attempt as a message to turn around what's left of his life.

URGatorBait · Apr 22, 2022

stephenPE said:
I guess titles in here are not up for debate so here goes. We all have friends. I have 3 or 4 close ones. One almost died for a few years but he is doing great now. 74 yrs old. My oldest friend (about 70) tried to kill himself a few days ago with Oxy and alcohol. He was killing himself with booze for years but at a much more controlled manner. Ive never known a suicide victim before or one that failed. I call him my rich republican friend at times in here. I immediately went to visit him at the hospital (2 hours away) and spent half a day with him. He has to agree to a three day inhouse therapy thing. He just called me so I feel he is doing much better. Lots more back story but anyone dealt with it before? He has anything he wants but good health now days.

Keep an eye on him. This can be deceiving.

bradgator2 · Apr 22, 2022

Growing up, my dad's best friend was about 10 years younger than him. He was basically my older brother. He offed himself when I was in high school over a broken engagement. It still pisses me off. Such a good guy.

My best friend and I have been super close since high school. I've known him for over 30 years. We were both there for the birth of all our kids. We were the best man at each other's weddings. My kids call him uncle and call their kids cousins and vice versa. Our families have vacationed every year together since I can remember. He was arrested a few weeks ago for some pretty fuched up shiit. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I wouldnt have believed it before now... but this is a worse feeling than a death. It's so fuched up.

BNAG8R · Apr 22, 2022

This was the guy that kept cannonballing Sasquatch’s high-dollar whiskey, they almost came to blows, and then you tried to make up for it by pouring some rotgut into the bottle to fill it back up, right?

That was a good day.

Gator By Marriage · Apr 22, 2022

bradgator2 said:
Growing up, my dad's best friend was about 10 years younger than him. He was basically my older brother. He offed himself when I was in high school over a broken engagement. It still pisses me off. Such a good guy.

My best friend and I have been super close since high school. I've known him for over 30 years. We were both there for the birth of all our kids. We were the best man at each other's weddings. My kids call him uncle and call their kids cousins and vice versa. Our families have vacationed every year together since I can remember. He was arrested a few weeks ago for some pretty fuched up shiit. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I wouldnt have believed it before now... but this is a worse feeling than a death. It's so fuched up.

Sorry to hear this Brad. There were some guys that I grew up with that I later had to jettison when our paths diverged wildly, but none as were as close as it sounds the two of you were. Sorry I can’t offer any words of wisdom. It sucks, but while I don’t know the details, it sounds like he chose to do what he did with the consequences be damned.

deuce · Apr 23, 2022

Maybe he's right.......... Not advice, just spit-balling.

Detroitgator · Apr 23, 2022

bradgator2 said:
Growing up, my dad's best friend was about 10 years younger than him. He was basically my older brother. He offed himself when I was in high school over a broken engagement. It still pisses me off. Such a good guy.

My best friend and I have been super close since high school. I've known him for over 30 years. We were both there for the birth of all our kids. We were the best man at each other's weddings. My kids call him uncle and call their kids cousins and vice versa. Our families have vacationed every year together since I can remember. He was arrested a few weeks ago for some pretty fuched up shiit. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I wouldnt have believed it before now... but this is a worse feeling than a death. It's so fuched up.

What are you doing that is causing people close to you to do these things?

bradgator2 · Apr 23, 2022

Detroitgator said:
What are you doing that is causing people close to you to do these things?

That’s a good point. You’re next motherfucher. :lol:

But I actually had zero involvement or warning with either instance. Just…. bam.

CDGator · Apr 23, 2022

bradgator2 said:
Growing up, my dad's best friend was about 10 years younger than him. He was basically my older brother. He offed himself when I was in high school over a broken engagement. It still pisses me off. Such a good guy.

My best friend and I have been super close since high school. I've known him for over 30 years. We were both there for the birth of all our kids. We were the best man at each other's weddings. My kids call him uncle and call their kids cousins and vice versa. Our families have vacationed every year together since I can remember. He was arrested a few weeks ago for some pretty fuched up shiit. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I wouldnt have believed it before now... but this is a worse feeling than a death. It's so fuched up.

My step-sister was married to a guy that said he was going to college (he wasn’t), said he graduated (he didn’t) said he was working at a job (he got fired from) and eventually it all came tumbling down. They had two kids together. Hard to understand how this happens. I remember him as someone that was always joking and laughing but I guess things were really messed up on the inside. Eventually he committed suicide in a high profile manner.

Fodderwing · Apr 23, 2022

CDGator said:
My step-sister was married to a guy that said he was going to college (he wasn’t), said he graduated (he didn’t) said he was working at a job (he got fired from) and eventually it all came tumbling down. They had two kids together. Hard to understand how this happens. I remember him as someone that was always joking and laughing but I guess things were really messed up on the inside. Eventually he committed suicide in a high profile manner.

One of my S-I-L's married a bum that for a semester drove from Bushnell to Tampa to hangout in the library at USF to hide the fact that he had dropped all of his classes due to failing grades.

He got a job in a circuit city warehouse once his secret was discovered.

They have been divorced for a few years now.

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