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My best friend just lost her daughter this morning. Can’t imagine anything worse than the pain of losing a child other than a missing child and not having answers.

I’ve had my issues this year but it pales in comparison


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I wrote a little about this in the best friends thread, but we got a doozy brewing too.

My best friend of 30 years was arrested last month. Immediately bailed out. Was re-arrested last week and has been in jail since. Yesterday, the bond was revoked on the first arrest because he violated the bail conditions (doesnt really matter because he is already in jail for the 2nd arrest).

Anyway, he's an absolute conman and predator. At this point, we know he was living at least a triple life. His marriage and life with 5 kids was an absolute shell. He has completely duped scores of people, for many many years.

I can get past losing the best friend part. It sucks, but whatever. We are also super super close with the wife and kids (our kids consider them cousins). The "worst" part, and where it belongs in this thread, is watching his family try to come to grips that their husband and father doesnt even exist, and never has. It's absolutely heartbreaking. I would think dealing with a death is actually easier, because that is at least an "absolute". Fuching nuts to witness.
 
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CD, I'm very sorry for your friend's losing her daughter. That has to be horrible to experience first-hand.

I can't top that so I won't even try.
 

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Life is hard enough but I’ll never understand why some people choose to make it even more difficult for themselves and those people around them that they supposedly love. I’m not sure how a family comes to grip with their husband/ father/best friend is not the person they thought he was. That’s tough to process.

The day our daughter was born is the day that our friend’s daughter went into her first rehab facility. This has been a painful 18 year journey with them. We knew this day was inevitable. Healing comes in many forms but this was not the kind of answered prayer that we were hoping for.


Hug your loved ones a little more and argue a little less.
 

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CD & Brad

So sorry for what you and your friends are going through. I have nothing in my life that pales in comparison at this time other than feeling like I have just been kicked constantly for the last 4 years. My wife however is going through something with one of her friends that we all still can't understand.

She has a friend from high school that she has stayed in touch with since, meets up when they can which can be years between and such. Two weeks ago my wife gets a call from another one of her friends saying she's in hospice. Immediately they all start trying to figure out what happened. The girl didn't have good parents and was a functioning alcoholic, but no major medical issues. My wife immediately makes plans to go visit her and starts to piece togethor the story with other friends while the mother is trying to keep anyone from talking to her, in between her happy hour visits and parties. The dad pretty much told them to just let him know when she died.

One night she was drinking and eating in bed. Started to choke and in the struggle had a heart attack. the boyfriend did everything he could to help and the paramedics were able to get her back. She was in the ICU with a with a trachea tube and feeding tube and was scheduled to be moved to rehab. This is where the story doesn't make since because a day later she was moved to hospice. The mother claims the doctor said it was best and got zero second opinions and jumped on the opportunity. She has been in hospice almost two weeks now without the feeding tube and it has been a slow death. My wife says she is trying to get up, knows who you are and is trying to talk and they just keep upping her meds and will not tell anyone why hospice was chosen over rehab. My wife thinks she will finally pass on mothers day as an FU to her mother. She still feels like there is some big piece to the story missing, but based on the info she has and knowing the parents thinks they just chose what would lessen their burden.
 

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Ok, a set of parents killing their adult child by hospice starvation definitely counts. I hate to give that story a like.

This thread has the potential to share some really sick shiit.
 

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it’s difficult to comprehend and second guess why people make the choices they do. All I can say is that there is always more to a story a several sides to it. Difficult decisions had to be made using the best information they had at the time.

It must be very painful for your wife that doesn’t have all the answers to fully process everything. Hope she can find the closure that she needs when it’s all said and done.
 

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Ok, a set of parents killing their adult child by hospice starvation definitely counts. I hate to give that story a like.

This thread has the potential to share some really sick shiit.

It does man. When she first said hospice I immediately thought cancer. I had a friend from high school that put off going to the doctor during all the COVID restrictions and died a week after her stage 4 diagnosis. Thought it would be a similar story and had no idea where the story would go.
 

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This thread sucks!! I have experienced a lot of people dying in the last 18 months due to old age, COVID, cancer, etc. Losing a child has to be the worst.
 

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My best friend just lost her daughter this morning. Can’t imagine anything worse than the pain of losing a child other than a missing child and not having answers.

I’ve had my issues this year but it pales in comparison


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CD, tell your friend I am praying for her. The pain lessens over time, but it doesn't go away. So very sorry for your loss.
 
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If there is ever a Wednesday's Worst thread about worst threads, this one's the winner hands down.
 

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My best friend just lost her daughter this morning. Can’t imagine anything worse than the pain of losing a child other than a missing child and not having answers.

I’ve had my issues this year but it pales in comparison


Worst.
You are so right CD. Several years ago I lost my older son to a mental
Illness disease. Much like what happened this past weekend with
Naomi Judd. Please tell your friend, it will never be easy, but with each passing
day, it gets easier. I still have sad moments, but they’re not as bad as they
once we’re.
Prayers go out to your friend.
 

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You are so right CD. Several years ago I lost my older son to a mental
Illness disease. Much like what happened this past weekend with
Naomi Judd. Please tell your friend, it will never be easy, but with each passing
day, it gets easier. I still have sad moments, but they’re not as bad as they
once we’re.
Prayers go out to your friend.

Thank you for your story and my condolences. Can’t imagine the emotions that come with the loss of a child.
 

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I'm so sorry. That's my worst nightmare realized by yet another family. Prayers for you all.
 

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This thread sucks out loud.
 

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My mom never smoked a cigarette in her life, developed lung cancer which she didn’t notice until her brain was filled metastatic cancer, then died on the exact same day that my sister died 40 years earlier.

(Yes, it’s ok to give a lol)
 

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My mom never smoked a cigarette in her life, developed lung cancer which she didn’t notice until her brain was filled metastatic cancer, then died on the exact same day that my sister died 40 years earlier.

(Yes, it’s ok to give a lol)

Crazy coincidence.

I just told our daughter that the day she was born was the day that our friend's daughter went into rehab for the first time.
We had the whole village of friends at the hospital waiting in anticipation for our daughter's delivery. It was a beautiful distraction for my friend and what was happening to her daughter. Today, the very day her daughter passed, is the same day our daughter moved out of the dorm and finished her first year at college. Life really does go by quickly.
 

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