Adrian Peterson indicted in Texas for spanking son
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Thanks GatorStud. Parenting is hard and exhausting. I agree that what I'm suggesting is not a one size fits all solution.GatorStud said:Private Catholic School taught by nuns, Italian mother from the Bronx, New York... 'nuff said.
The beauty of a spanking when their young/impressionable is that you only have to do it a few times, then your words mean something and that's all you have to use. As for the daddy with a bunch of girls on here claiming the obey and A student thing, congrats on dodging the bullet by talking your mouth dry for discipline... don't lie guy. As for me, I'm a my three sons dad. That's a whole different ball game dude. I too have sport freaks, AP, grew into good guys. You better set the tone early to show who pays the freight. All mine have college degrees in the healthcare fields making six figures each. Honestly though, I can count on one hand the times early on I had to spank (note the word... on the ass only) to prove when I say something, I mean it. After that, all you have to do is imply, because your word means fact not sissy parent rhetoric. ***one major caveat here that has been left out*** if you have to spank... infrequently of course... then you're probably doing it right PROVIDED YOU SHOW THROUGH MOST OTHER DAILY ACTIONS, "LOVE" AND "FAIRNESS". They grow up like most of us, knowing you cared and had their best interest at heart... I reflect back and can always say I deserved it and at the same time knew my parents loved me dearly. Like the liberal jackasses, always tunnel vision rhetoric and trying to impart their opinions by guilt. F-you. Now, with regards to AP and a 4 year old, probably a little 'roid rage in that a few lighter cracks could still have served his purpose well. But, I wasn't there dealing with the problem that he felt needed to be straightened out. I am opposed to beating/spanking a child for every and any offense. A good parent gets a feel for when words aren't getting the message across or being pissed on by the child. Gotta always go back to showing more love and respect to your kid than continued force and intimidation if they are to be okay. But every blue moon (especially with boys trying to be king of the mountain), you will have those infrequent come again moments. IMHO
Listening, loving, talking, learning, compassion, and support are heavy tools in my book. We're all human after all and we sometimes get to wit's end in our quest to guide out children to be better people and fathers than us.
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rogdochar;n48704 said:
Always seemed like more of a runner to me.
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I was making a joke I'm not justifying anything I wasn't there. Nobody's saying it's okay to abuse kids. Some of us are just saying we feel that we needed our asses whipped and it help us become who we are today. Alot of our parents were just doing the best they could.t-gator said:
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itsgr82bag8r;n48466 said:
In a related note there are millions of poor parents. Only losers beat their kids. A 220# man drawing blood from a 4 year old child? There's a word for that "monster"
Sad to see so many here stand for child abuse.
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t-gator;n48716 said:
Typical..
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J, I'm very sorry that your childhood was filled with abuse. There is no excuse for outright physical abuse. I in no way would ever condone that, ever. (Well, maybe some form of abuse I'd dish out to Tampa Gator, but that's another story.) There is a world of difference between a spanking and abuse. The reasons & methods are very different. I can understand now, after you've shared your past, how it would evoke strong feelings within you & therefore making it a "black & white" issue simplifies it. However, not everyone experienced abuse as you did. The majority didn't suffer physical and emotional trauma as you did. Regardless of personal feelings, it does have it's place in parenting. When done when appropriate, with judicious measure and out of love for the child it is a highly motivational teaching tool. That isn't up for argument, it's factual. Sure, there are dozens of so called experts out there who will make all sorts of points in today's newly developed PC culture, but that doesn't change the fact that it has been, and continues to be, an effective method of teaching. Especially when teaching an important lesson at ages where there is zero reasoning ability. Like what's already been said, not everyone is the same. Some children are great while others are destructive. Sometimes they are from the same family, using the same teaching methods. But, painting all parents who chose to discipline their own children in the loving way they deem appropriate, the way you and a few other have, is inappropriate IMO. I flatly do NOT justify, condone or support anything having to do with AP, I never indicated that I did. But I strongly disagree with the broad brush used in your comment.GatorJ said:
