There is an industry in this country that plays on the fears of their target audience more so than
anything I have ever seen. For ever we have valued women for the looks. Women do the same but
usually look also for financial security/stability among other things. This industry I mentioned sells women
on the notion they can be 1. more beautiful and 2. keep from aging.
I know this because my wife buys ANYTHING that claims to defy aging. Keep skin soft and young and
about every known cosmetic known to Madison Ave. My grandmother used Oil of Olay. I remember it in her bathroom. Men become distinguished as the age. Women become old. The media and Madison Ave. perpetuate this by endorsing youth as the epitome of society in terms of how we should look. Every woman's magazine is almost complicit to a fault with this shtt.........I can see a letter to the paper coming soon.
Do you really think mass advertising has brainwashed women into thinking they want to look younger...or maybe women naturally want to look younger and mass advertising merely pushes this cream over that cream?
It's fundamental Coach. A man's power can come from various sources. He might be young and virile (and the kind of guy girls like to have affairs with). He may be old and rich. He may be a stable provider. Women strongly prefer to marry men who make more than they do.
A woman's power isn't so diffuse. It tends to be based on youth and attractiveness. That's why women want to look youthful and attractive. It's empowering.
My wife is beautiful. She had beautiful privilege and never knew it. Oh, she knew she could talk her way out of a ticket or get somebody to help her move but she never really understood it. Until she got pregnant. She came back from the grocery store all mopey one day. She finally realized what life was like for the rest of us ugly folks. She didn't like it one bit.
When you're beautiful, you don't get in trouble at school. Teachers see you as "energetic" instead of "disruptive". You get promoted at work faster. You get paid more. People let you merge into traffic. Waiters are nicer to you. You get upgraded at the hotel or the airline. Life is simply easier. And because you have lived your life this way, you don't understand that it is different for ugly people.
Successful Black women have a hard time finding equally or more successful Black men. Successful White women have a hard time finding equally or more successful White men. Many of them went to law school or medical school and devoted years to building their careers. By the time they are ready to marry, their male peers are all dating younger nurses, nannies, teachers, and secretaries. Tragically, very successful women often end up single and childless. I can't tell you how many smart, attractive, and successful female attorneys in their mid to late 30's have cried on my couch because they couldn't find a suitable mate. They do pilates and keto and get skin peels and regualr mani/pedis and electrolysis and get tucks and lifts and everything else.
You see Coach, I don't think Madison Avenue is solely to blame here. I think it is in large part our nature as human animals. Human males are naturally attracted to young curvy women with regular features because that equals healthy offspring. That's not Madison Avenue. That's Charles Darwin. What Madison Avenue does is push one face cream over another. It doesn't create the need to appear young and attractive. That's already inside them.
Alex.
