NickyFitz is being generous here. I coached him his freshman year in high school at Richmond Hill and I had to use much harsher tactics to toughen him up. The kid had talent, but his mental weakness was destined to be his undoing. I have to say I take a lot of credit for his success, as hard as the transition was for both of us.
I started out with the usual stuff - comments about his sexual preferences and about complaints the equipment manager was giving me over the brown smears in his uniform pants, etc.. I made sure to do this loudly and usually when there were girls within earshot. He would get angry and fired up and it did help him play better and with more intensity - for a while.
At some point, I realized I had to ratchet it up, so I started having some very close conversations with him about how I had been balling his mother. This drove him nuts, as he was from a broken family and had seen his share of awful men come and go in his house, but man was he able to play better than ever before. He absolutely hated me but the more I tormented him about his mother the harder he played. Finally, though, he'd had enough and took a swing at me. Didn't do much damage, but I called the authorities anyway. He ended up spending a short amount of time in juvie, where some unspeakable things happened to him. I'm convinced all this helped toughen him up and made him a better QB. He got suspended because of it for his sophomore year. All this is well documented, many division I schools shied away from him because of it. When he emerged his Junior year he was a different kid. My efforts had molded him into a man and a top-notch college prospect.
A few years ago we had a beer and buried the hatchet. He actually thanked me, and rightly so. I have no doubt he'd be a nobody right now if it wasn't for my efforts. He also realized the effort and sacrifices I made for him. In order to make the toughening up experience more authentic for him, I often risked a DUI by driving to his mother's house at 2:30 in the morning. It was worth it in the end, and I'd do it again, and I'm sure although he'd rather keep the episode between us, he'll thank me more when he looks back on his successful NFL career.