I might have told them the same before I proceeded to start whipping their ass....;)"Man, should I just consider this a lesson learned?"
Not exactly the same but I was an inspector for 25 years. When I walked on the job everybody was my friend, they smiled, shook my hand, called me Sir and even in a round about way often offered me small bribes. When I left I could hear them mumbling in the background "That Son Of a *****". LOL
The obvious question that needs to be answered is what was she in the pokey for?When I used to help my dad with trees at Christmas, he told me never do business with family... they will always screw you whether it is intentional or not. Only had one friend/family member not pay me back on a loan, SIL needed bail so the wife and I helped out (didn't pay the whole thing)… she keeps telling us how after the next tax return or the next what ever she is going to pay us back. I've written it off, but not loaning money out again to her.
I'm still feeding out rope for my landscaper to hang himself with....He's actually showed up at all of my accounts every week since I started this thread. I did get pricing from the landscaper who does the office next door to ours and his pricing is about exactly the same so I'll be ready when my current guy f vcks up again.
That's the whole point of the thread, DS,....Just hand the guy a clearly written letter stating what you want , when and how...no extras without prior approval....jfc....
That's the whole point of the thread, DS,....
You would think being friends with someone for close to 20 years that you wouldn't have to. Again this isn't someone that I hired off the street, it's someone who I helped to start a business and helped get established. It's also someone I've pounded thousands of beers with, watched numerous Gator games with, b!tched to when I was going through a divorce and listened to when they were doing the same....I've fired hundreds of people in my earlier profession but never had to fire a friend.
I know sooner or later it's most likely gonna happen. Here's the thing with this dudeI always look at arguments/conflict as whether I value the friendship more than the issue and whether the person is taking advantage of the issue BECAUSE of the friendship.
Yeah, you stepped in it knowingly and made the mistake of thinking he wouldn’t do it to you.I know sooner or later it's most likely gonna happen. Here's the thing with this dude
He has a bit of history with taking advantage of situations in the past and it's cost him. He was fired from both of the jobs we worked together. Once for using company property without consent and once for brokering deals behind the business owners back(cutting them out of consignment) because he thought no one was paying attention.....
I like the guy and I've tried hard to help him with numerous referrals and tons of extra cleanout, hauling and light tree work jobs but I guess some people never learn.
Honestly I kinda suspected it would end up here one day. I'm a nice guy but I also have no problem torching the past when I'm done with someone....Yeah, you stepped in it knowingly and made the mistake of thinking he wouldn’t do it to you.
In 1987, I was 2 years in to a very successful automotive aftermarket franchise.
We were doing fairly well, but the amount of work was over whelming. I hired a man
who I had met at a business that I was doing work for. For the first year, it was great.
He was the best salesman/closer that I had ever met. I had promised him a 33% raise
in 12 months if things worked out, but he had increased sales so much that I gave him
the raise after 4 months. But then things began to change. My thoughts are that he felt
he was the reason for our success, and obviously thought that he could make all that
money for himself. His sales took a nose dive, and his salary then became a drain.
I really thought a lot of the guy, and it was with a heavy heart that I had to broom him
out the door. So what did he do? He borrowed $35000 (from my banker, no less) and
then opened up the same type of business as an independent. He did his best to take my
customers, hire away my employees, took out ads in which he made snide comments about
my operation. Well, the man had over the years proven that he was the type of guy who should
always work for somebody else. He was a great number 2 guy but was a disaster as number 1.
His business lasted about 8 months. The money was gone, his checks were worthless, and couldn't
even cover payroll on a regular basis. His outstanding debt had ballooned to $350K with no means
to ever repay it. All his suppliers put him on C.O.D. and he then had little choice but to declare bankruptcy.
The day after his case was heard in court, he came to my business, poured himself a cup of coffee,
sat down at my desk and broke into tears. I felt so bad for him that I loaned him $2500 which I never got back. But I didn't care. He was my buddy, and I have always made it a policy to never lend someone more money than I could afford to just give them. 10 years later, at age 57, he died of a heart attack. I spoke at his funeral. I felt that I had lost a brother.
I'm still feeding out rope for my landscaper to hang himself with....He's actually showed up at all of my accounts every week since I started this thread. I did get pricing from the landscaper who does the office next door to ours and his pricing is about exactly the same so I'll be ready when my current guy f vcks up again.
I love my Brother but I have also beaten the chit out of him for far less....I felt that I had lost a brother.