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Yet when you point out why this is happening, even here people get triggered.Imagine saying this to your mother
Train up a child in the way he/she should go; even when he/she is old he/she will not depart from it.
Yet when you point out why this is happening, even here people get triggered.Imagine saying this to your mother
In looking back my mother often scolded me to 'clear my plate'. Usually with supporting statements about how hard she works all day and then cooks a meal for us, how there are starving kids in Africa, and other standard guilt tropes (yes, she was/is a pretty hard Catholic with her guilt trips).
I've grown to be an overweight man. One who often orders light when the family goes out, because I end up clearing everyone's plates, even if I don't want their left overs. That upbringing absolutely had an impact on my wiring for later in life. I can see it, recognize when it's happening, but still am generally unable to break the cycle of 'not wasting food'.
In looking back my mother often scolded me to 'clear my plate'. Usually with supporting statements about how hard she works all day and then cooks a meal for us, how there are starving kids in Africa, and other standard guilt tropes (yes, she was/is a pretty hard Catholic with her guilt trips).
I've grown to be an overweight man. One who often orders light when the family goes out, because I end up clearing everyone's plates, even if I don't want their left overs. That upbringing absolutely had an impact on my wiring for later in life. I can see it, recognize when it's happening, but still am generally unable to break the cycle of 'not wasting food'.
Must be a catholic thing. Seedy’s family of 10
I feel for you, TLB. The fact that you are aware of your issue is so awesome, though! There are counselors who specialize in eating disorders of all kind. I would explore that next step and conquer the problem once and for all. Find the right professional for you, and they can help retrain your brain on how it sees food.Aye. My mom was raised in a strong Catholic house, the oldest of six kids.
I have had the conversations with my kids, trying to prevent them from being like me. Since he was 10 he'll always ask me "are you hungry, or are you just eating it because it's there?" He's trying to help me with my problem.