Apparently Millennials are more lonely...

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  1. Gator By Marriage

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    I guess I’m an older millennial, so I will comment - I have about 2 or 3 friends which is honestly more than I can handle with work, wife, and two kids. I have tons of acquaintances, but the truly solid friendship that means more - a few is all I need and want. Perhaps the 22% feel the same as I do and actually have some friends, just not a massive social group?
     
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    I hope you are right that they were exaggerating about having zero friends. I'm pretty much like you, though a baby boomer. Maybe I'm an exception, but I consider my wife my best friend. Perhaps they were excluding spouses?
     
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    I joke with the family (very talkative extroverts, all of them) about how I have no friends. I have acquaintances as mentioned by ExecG, but nobody I really want to hang out with. I suppose that's the key, I'm never lonely or wanting the company of others. There's a few guys I may play golf with a few times, but hanging out is typically done with the other husband while my wife drags me over to be social. Then again, I'm near 50 and don't qualify as a millennial.

    I would venture to guess they didn't learn the right socializing skills (how to make and retain friends) given a life spent mostly staring at their phone.
     
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        My twins are millennials and both have significant others with whom they spend the majority of their time. One was outgoing and had a wide circle of friends while the other had a much smaller one.
        But now in their mid-twenties they both could use a couple of close guy friends. Nothing against their gals, but having close male relationships is healthy for all concerned. They need a balance-
         
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        Maybe because Facebook friends aren’t the same as actual face to face relationships?
         
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            People suck. With that in mind:

            The rise of the internet, social media, and online gaming created more avenues to scratch the social interaction itch without having to physically interact with people in real life. It doesn't surprise me in the least that the Millennials, a group raised by helicopter parents, participation trophies, and a lack of personal responsibility would turn to an alternative form of social interaction where they could have more control over their environment and interactions.

            I don't really care to get into the arguments over whether this is healthy or not, as it largely depends on the personality makeup of the individual and how it effects their mental health. Introverts thrive in an online environment where they can find social interaction those times they need it, but then not have to worry about the unwanted social interactions that come with real life friends. Extroverts on the other hand could suffer greatly if they're unable to find real life friends to interact with on a regular basis, seeing how their mental health is sustained through human interaction. This one example barely scratches the surface of the "healthy or not" argument, which will continue to wage long after I'm dead.

            Now to answer your real question: No, I'm not a millennial (Gen X'er here), but I do date them. Millennial men are zero competition ;)
             
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              I was thinking the same thing. My theory on friends is they are like family but you get to choose them. I have a few close friends but their health is getting worse all the time. My brother is a close friend. My two oldest have good friends they interact with, I told my students often that you cannot have too many friends.
               
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              As we get older it gets harder to have "good friends" or "close friends", but I think if you're not a complete a-hole it's easy to have a group of friends. Once you get a family, move, work, etc it's harder and harder to maintain relationships - it's work.

              It's inexcusable for young people not to have good friends, what else the F are they doing? Oh yeah, social media, the internet, gaming, vaping, being a douchebag, etc.

              My son is a millineal (he'll be 27 next month). He has a ton of friends and is very social, doesn't have social media, rarely plays video games, etc. He likes to surf and fish, and he does those activities with his buddies. I wish more kids were like him.
               
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              They don't belong to:
              Clubs
              Teams
              Church
              And many can't carry on a conversation

              You do the math.
               
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                I have had a lot of "friends" over my many years in life, however, only count 3 as very close friends. If you end up in life with a couple of true-blue close friends, consider yourself real fortunate.
                 
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                  Their mobile device is all the friends they need.
                   

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