Tilly, you don't own the board so you don't make the rules. I get it. I have been an admin on another board for years and their rules are pretty strict on language and such and therefore, I have enforced those rules as they have asked me to. I think many of the rules are dumb and should be revisited and relaxed but I don't own the forum. There are probably dozens of times I could have banned someone and didn't and there are a few I wish I hadn't. The first time I have ever seen your site was when I followed the link over there. I don't know the first thing about your forum and really don't care.
What really irks me is this byrd guy left your forum and said some negative things about it from what I recall and joined over here and got his ass handed to him and then when he couldn't win a single argument or properly stand his ground, he runs back to you crying like a little bytch. I would watch him if I were you and wouldn't hesitate to ban his ass if he steps out of line. Cry baby.